On getting something you always wanted
Last night I watched a re-run of the tv show Becker, and it was an episode where Jaclyn Smith played an old flame of the lead character, Dr. John Becker. Back in college, some 20 or 30 years ago, he thought they were meant to be together for life, but then she went off and married another man.
At the beginning of this episode she knocks on his door and says she made a terrible mistake, and really wants to be with him (Dr. Becker). I don’t want to give the whole story away, but he takes her in, and — the show being a comedy — let’s just say things don’t exactly work out.
I write this because I’ve had a similar fantasy about a few other women in my own life, and this episode was a funny eye-opener. The truth is, the only thing I *really* have is this fantasy in my mind. Sure, I know these women, I’ve spent a fair amount of time with them, and I like them quite a bit, but living with them would surely be a *lot* different than the fantasy image in my mind.
This fantasy thing reminds me of my iPhone. For the last year or so it’s been a very cool device, and I never let it out of my sight, but now that I’m used to it I leave it everywhere, and have even been known to throw it onto the couch or the bed (I use it as an alarm clock in the morning).
So all of this makes me wonder: Are we better off with our “happily ever after” fantasies some times?