Focus on the message
While enjoying an otherwise bizarre dream this morning (again related to family members), a character in the dream pulled me aside, and said very sternly, "Focus on the message, not the messenger." I looked at him, trying to make sense of what was happening, and he grabbed my arm and said, "This is important, focus. Repeat it back to me," so I said it back to him, "Focus on the message, not the messenger." Then I woke up.